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Sep. 16th, 2011 | 11:49 pm
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posted by: hellokittyerin in o_c_d

Has anyone else had problems with family members not understanding OCD? My parents always tell me to "stop obsessing". I tend to go on and on about things for days, weeks, or even months. I have problems with obsessive thoughts all the time and feel that I need to tell them to people. They know I've been diagnosed with OCD and I've told them that I'm not doing what I do on purpose or to upset anyone. They tell me I need to keep these things to myself, but I find that very difficult.

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wandering alone on the ridge of a coast

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from: taza_rota
date: Sep. 17th, 2011 02:27 pm (UTC)
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it might be helpful to buy them a book on OCD. there are plenty of good ones out there, and having the information come from a doctor or other authoritative source might help them look at the situation in a different way.

or if you don't want to spend the money, the NIMH website has a lot of good info you could point them towards.

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Watermelon

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from: melonsplash
date: Sep. 17th, 2011 04:07 pm (UTC)
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Sorry to hear that your family are having trouble understanding what OCD is and how it affects them.

For me my family do not necessarily understand the details of how OCD works, but over time they saw that my pure-obsession (what I usually just describe as "my brain wants to kill me") affects my mood greatly and acknowledged that it was a difficult thing to overcome which I struggled with all the time.

If an opportunity arises, explaining to them (maybe individually, or when the mood strikes) how much it really affects you and your everyday functioning can help. If you want to go further into what OCD actually is and/or details of how it is an actual illness, a very good explanation of OCD was given to me by my psychologist years ago, I think it was from the New Harbinger The OCD Workbook. I should have it somewhere at home, if you need I can scan the pages and send them over, just drop me a line here and I'll try to dig them up. Some good online resources are http://www.ocdonline.com/defineocd.php and http://www.brainphysics.com/ocdfaq.php (I particularly like the I'm Gay and You're Not article for providing a good understanding of Pure-O overall, not just specifically for HOCD).

Sometimes if family aren't supportive there may be other people in your life who may understand better, maybe friends or mentors or teachers or colleagues and sometimes they can help support you when family aren't doing too well.

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shoujo_sparkles

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from: shoujo_sparkles
date: Sep. 18th, 2011 04:43 pm (UTC)
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Wow...story of my life. My parents and I have always been really close, but they never understood that it's not something we have control over. I also have always had the compulsion to tell people in order to get reassurance. They never understood why I would agonize over something for hours on end, they would tell me the same things, and I would keep obsessing. Eventually they would start to lose patience because OCD keeps looping.

When I started my OCD therapy, my therapist had them come into the second session to explain how OCD works. My therapist is an OCD specialist, so she explained it in a way that made sense to them. It also helped validate the fact that I really do not have control over the obsessiveness in my personality.

As for keeping things to yourself- are they telling you that because they just don't want to deal with them, or do they know that offering your reassurance makes it worse? That is something I really struggled with at first. My therapist told my parents that they are not allowed to reassure me anymore, so I felt at times that I had no outlet. It really forces you to start accepting the discomfort that goes along with the thoughts. But in any case, I know how hard it is not being able to tell people or not having them understand :(

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Sweet Carolina Girl

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from: fitnessgirl
date: Sep. 29th, 2011 08:53 am (UTC)
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Yes. When I was younger, my parents would get so mad at me for my OCD behaviors, but they would never get me help for them. My mom has been a lot more open to it now that I'm in therapy and on meds for it and even read a workbook on it. She's very open to it now, and has taken the time to understand it as best she can. My dad still thinks it's something I can just get over.

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